Claire Judd
Therapist for Maternal Anger, Rage & Overwhelm
You love them. You're trying your hardest. And yet a simmering rage keeps getting ignited inside you.
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Take the banana incident...you've peeled it exactly how they asked, broke it in half and put it in the bowl, the same way they always have it...and the second you hand it to them they scream “NOT LIKE THAT” and collapse on the kitchen floor like you've ended the world.
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And something ignites in you that feels completely out of proportion, and you know it's out of proportion, which somehow makes it worse.
The bowl hits the counter hard. You hear yourself shout "IT'S JUST A BANANA, WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU" and the second it's out, you wish you could pull it back in.
Because now they're crying harder.
And the voice in your head has started..."What is wrong with you?"
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If you're reading this and nodding, I'm so glad you found me. I'm Claire
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"It can be really hard putting into words how you've been feeling - not just content but because the emotions feel scary. But Claire is the most amazing therapist, there is absolutely no judgement, just total recognition of what you're going through and solid, consistent support to work through it."
Mum of 18 month old
"I thought I was such an awful mum, it took me so long to come to see you because I was just so ashamed. but I view myself so differently now."
Mum of 2 year old
"I came wanting strategies to cope with it all, and yes we explored some strategies, but it wasn't that that helped, it was being really, truly listened to and understood. Claire allowed me to get to my emotions when I felt ready, she helped it feel less scary and now I feel so much more secure in sharing that part of myself. I'm no longer bottling it up and anger is no longer exploding out of me."
Mum of 7 and 4 year old
Here's what I want you to know:
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The rage, the guilt, the approaching bedtime like you're going into combat with the aim of just getting in and out as quickly as possible; none of it means you're not cut out for this.
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Because this feeling isn't the final chapter. It's just the beginning.
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Motherhood has this way of cracking us open, bringing up everything we never dealt with, everything we've 'coped' with, everything we never even knew was there.
It can make us feel like we're failing at the most important thing we've ever done. But that cracking open? It's also the way through.
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♢ Bedtime still has chaos in it, but there's giggling too, and you're actually there for it.
♢ You sit with a crying child and your body doesn't scream at you to get away.
♢ You catch yourself at the end of the day replaying the moment you got it right, instead of torturing yourself with the one you didn't.
Something in you starts coming back. The lightness. The laughter. The feeling that your house isn't a place where everyone's quietly waiting for the next explosion.
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You start recognising yourself again. Not the version who was white-knuckling it through every day, the one who was always there underneath it.
Hello, I'm Claire
I'm Claire. Therapist and mum who has absolutely hurled a toy across the room in rage.
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I know what it's like to lose it over something small and spend the rest of the day feeling like the worst mum alive. I know what it's like to sit in therapy yourself and slowly start to understand why, and to feel, for the first time, like change is actually possible.
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That's what brought me to this work. And it's what I bring to every session.
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I hold a PGDip in Counselling & Psychotherapy, a degree in Psychology and I'm accredited with the NCPS. I've trained extensively in anger, maternal mental health and somatic approaches...the kind of work that goes beyond talking and into where change actually happens.
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But more than any of that? I'm not going to look at you with surprise when you tell me what you did. I'm going to nod. Because I get it, from the inside.
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